Need Help Selecting Your Wedding Party?

Lisa Tardo
Apr 10, 2018
3 min read

We're not going to lie - selecting your wedding party is a big deal! This group of people will be the ones standing by your side from start to finish in preparation of your walk down the aisle. They will be the ones there to help guide you, make decisions in your best interest, and calm you when you feel overwhelmed.

Some of you might have questions about selecting your wedding party. How many people should be in it? Who should be Maid of Honor? Best Man? My bridesmaids? My groomsmen? There are so many decisions that have to be made!

On the low end, there are typically 4 people on either side. For a larger wedding, the wedding party can grow to about 10-12 people! It's all about what YOU are comfortable with, and how many people you want to include. Remember, your wedding party will also be sharing the workload leading up to your big day.

Who should be your Maid of Honor? Usually, the bride will choose her sister (or her sister that is closest in age if she has multiple) to be her Maid of Honor. If the bride has no sisters, a close friend or family member will most likely be chosen. Does anyone come to mind for your own wedding? If you're having trouble picking your Maid of Honor, try not to stress. You will make the right decision!

Who should be your Best Man? Like the bride, the groom will probably choose his brother or brother closest in age, or a close friend or family member.

Ultimately, whoever is designated the role of Maid of Honor and Best Man should be people who you trust, who are reliable, and who you are close to.

The rest of the wedding party is usually made up of other siblings and close family members/friends. But you knew that already, right? Let us break down for you what these roles entail to help you make your decision a little bit easier.

Bridesmaids assist the maid of honor in organizing a bridal shower/bachelorette party, assist the bride and maid of honor with any tasks before the wedding as needed, attend all pre-wedding meetings, and might even have to secure hotel rooms for guests for the night of the wedding.

* Many couples have also been including bridesmen into their weddings in place of a bridesmaid. A bridesman could be a brother, other family family member, or close friend. If you have a close male that you would like to be a part of your wedding party, do not hesitate to include him!

And guys, if you are ever asked to be a bridesman, you should be honored!

Groomsmen serve as ushers on the wedding day, attend all pre-wedding meetings, and can also assist guests with any inquiries on the big day.

Do you have a pretty good idea of your wedding party now? It might help to jot down some notes and ideas so you don't forget, and to keep yourself organized. Just remember: your wedding party is going to be filled with the people who are going to be there with you each step of the way. Make sure it's a great journey!

It's also COMPLETELY OKAY if you do NOT have a wedding party! Many couples opt out of having a wedding party for different reasons, which could vary from simply not being able to choose who should be included to just wanting their family and friends to sit back and relax at their wedding, not have to worry about doing anything else. Do NOT feel guilty if you choose not to have a wedding party!

To read more about selecting your wedding party, see the infographic below courtesy of https://www.perfectring.ie/.

Whether you have a huge, small, or no bridal party at all, we know that your wedding will be perfect for YOU. Let us help you plan for one of the best days of your life!

xoxo, Lisa NJ Wedding Pros 43 W. Front St. Suite 20 Red Bank, NJ 07701 www.njweddingpros.com njweddingpros@gmail.com 732-747-0900